Saavy Single Sistas' Sagas

  1. But most of all, stop thinking that what people so loathingly refer to as the “friendzone” is some sort of purgatory women put “nice guys” into. My friendship is not a crappy consolation prize that you’re left with if I deny you a sexual relationship– and my body is not your reward for good behavior.

    -Taylor Callobre, The “Good Guy” Myth   (via housewifeswag)

    PREACH!!!!

    (via whisperscream)

    (Source: alionoftherock, via whisperscream)

  2. Evolution Of A Queen: 10 qualities to look for in a good relationship match

    onlinecounsellingcollege:

    10. Empathy: An individual’s ability to empathize with you is crucial in a relationship. Empathy is an important relationship skill that both parties should develop. Empathy is the ability to view the world from your partner’s eyes. Being able to put yourself in…

  3. theelectricrelaxation:

    “Pretty boys” are overrated.　

  4. I am no longer naive to the fact that some people just aren’t good for your life no matter how long ago they entered it. History holds no extra points.

    melodicdiction:

    belovelyessence:

    …yeah

    I needed to see this.

    (via redefiningmyself)

  5. We let Willow cut her hair. When you have a little girl, it’s like how can you teach her that you’re in control of her body? If I teach her that I’m in charge of whether or not she can touch her hair, she’s going to replace me with some other man when she goes out in the world. She can’t cut my hair but that’s her hair. She has got to have command of her body. So when she goes out into the world, she’s going out with a command that it is hers. She is used to making those decisions herself. We try to keep giving them those decisions until they can hold the full weight of their lives.

    (On why he let Willow cut all of her hair off)

    Read more: Will Smith On Allowing Willow To Cut Her Hair: ‘She Has Got To Have Command Of Her Body’ | Necole Bitchie.com

    - He raises a really great point. What would it mean to believe very early that my body was mine. That it’s not for anyone or for any particular purpose other than to be mine until I decide otherwise.

    (via larepublicadedet)

    I was damned near 30 before I could believe my body belonged to me & me alone. Dear people who take an issue with this,

    Let the Smiths do right by their babies & shut the fuck up about how you think they should parent.

    (via karnythia)

    I’m about to give myself a deathhawk and my mother is going to kill me.  I’m in my 30’s. 

    (via lepus)

    This is pretty powerful. My answer to most things is literally either “I can’t do it, my momma would have a fit” or “I dont know how my family would react”

    Eye opening to say the least

    (via clapsandpraises)

    (via ladydeduafe)

  6. imagemdma: Japanese Military - 1930’s 

    imagemdma:

    Japanese Military - 1930’s 

    (via theeducatedfieldnegro)

  7. Struggling To Be Heard:

    jonesydaking:

    siemprevivalavida:

    recklesstortugax3:

    dank-potion:

    “You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife”

    “You can’t turn a sexist, double-standard holding, woman-shaming douchebag into anything remotely useful, nevermind a husband”

    I literally always think this.

    …

  8. Struggling To Be Heard: so what you sayin' doe?

    TRUTH!!

    siemprevivalavida:

    hiphopcheerleader:

    that i can’t cook & fuck?

    cuz i assure you, i can & do both.

    but i won’t.

    wit cho starved ass.

    stay pressed.

    this goodness is only for niggas that got sense.

    THIS.

    and please, do tell about your various redeeming qualities as an aint-shit…

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